To be taken seriously as a sex educator! Of course that is my quest! Yet, what am I up against? Most everything we see about sex is unrealistic or just plain crazy. Hot airbrushed women in mags. Crazy reality TV. Skinny, horny AND successful. Wow. Those women look sweet! I heard recently from a friend that she "tries, yet ends up embarrassed" when she tries something new. I say "holy cow, at least you TRY!". Lots of people never do anything to change it up, to "kick it up a notch"! More power to her, right? Well, yes and no. I want her to try. I want my girlfriends to be happy in the bedroom, and I know that part of the responsibility is theirs. So I cheer the effort... but... I also don't want to ruin the day with all the pressure!
Reality is this: it does take effort. I agree. But I also know it includes so many variables it makes my mind spin. Here is just one woman's equation: 2 kids, full time job, primary homemaker, low self esteem, growing midsection, prone to depression, low sex drive, high value on happy sex life. Do you see where I am headed? Every woman has a drawer full of positives and negatives that effect her ability to be a sexual being. What's June Cleaver to do? In the big scheme of things, it can be managed, but on a day to day basis for this woman, it is a total cluster. What do you think is the first thing to fall off? I can tell you, it is not the attention to the home. It is the attention to her sexuality. In America we are not given permission to put sex and sexiness first. Maybe in France!
Let's talk about sex, baby, and let's talk about it a lot! Are you satisfied, how does sex fit into your life? Are you trying new things, are you making yourself happy in how you look at sex?
I am so serious. I am a sexologist, and dammit, I am determined to help make this a better life to live!
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Did you get the list of conserns from my head? I'm not dealing with the depression at least, but I am trying to deal with the gross midsection issue.... which puts 'working out and eating better' on the list of conserns, too. And since having these babies, it seems like my vagina is broken. Yes, BROKEN. It doesn't seem to work right anymore. I just recently told the hubster that we needed to do a relationship boot camp: one month where we have sex everyday. Holy crap... can I really do that? Don't know if it'll happen, but I figure that I'll at least burn some extra calories trying. :-)
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